Some of us are lucky enough to be born into a family who love us for no matter who we are and what we do. Those families I have always been jealous of because I was not that lucky. Don’t get me wrong yes I had a good Mom and Dad but when my Dad died everything feel apart. Yes I know that my Mom loved me but things were very different. My Mom did nothing but cry and drink all the time. She went out and forgot about her children. Two of my sisters and one brother was adopted by a couple in Big Springs the only thing I know about them is that they grew up happy, well-adjusted children who had a wonderful life and one of my sisters became a doctor who married a lawyer, my brother and my other sister became lawyers who married doctors so they have a wonderful life. They made something of their misfortune and probably don’t think of us too often.
My sister in California got adopted by my Dad’s aunt and she to is very happy had a lot of children of her own and I hear from her every now and then she lets me know how things are going there but not as much as she used to. Out of all of kids who are still left the only ones who keep in contact is my brother Mark, Chris and I out of 14 children 3 of us keep in touch but 5 have passed leaving 6 so I would say that is not bad odds.
I think I started this blog because I’m sad and missing quite a few of my family but not really my blood ones, my best friend I lost him in January at the beginning of the year and we had known each other over 47 years. We met during the summer when JJ (John) first turned 13 and I would have been 13 in October at the pool neither one of us was there to swim we were cutting through to go to the swinging bridge that is between Lucy Park and the tourist camping spot by the old Sheraton Hotel on the opposite side of the freeway from Huey School. Anyway we made a vow that we would always be friend and family I guess we kept that vow because even when we were made at each other we always loved each other and when he needed something or I did we were there for each other. When he lost (we lost) Pops he called me on the phone I was stationed somewhere I don’t even remember to tell me and I knew something was wrong before he said to much to me…I asked him what is the matter how is James, Carla, Judy, your Mom, Pops and that is when I knew he just couldn’t say much after wards before he hung up I asked if he or his family needed anything and he said yeah but I just got it so thanks…When my hubby Carl passed away in May 2012 JJ was here for me and I was so glad to have him to lean on, I don’t know what I would have done without him now he is gone and I’m not sure what I’m going to do without his humor even if it is a little weird sometimes. I sure did love him. People often asked us why we never got together with each other and we looked at each and just started laughing at each other and I guess it was a good 10 minutes before we stopped laughing and our reply at the same time with the same words are you kidding we would hurt each other we know too much about one another and there would never be a fair fight because passed mistakes would be brought up in every argument.
I was on Facebook tonight and I have been having a bad week worth of bad nights and Susie was on there now before I go any further let me tell you about Susie. Susie is a wonderful lady and I have probably known her since I started reading her articles on Goodreads, her books, and varies other articles she has published throughout her lifetime. Anyway I suppose there are others to have a bad week with but she and I seem to have click for some reason from the very beginning. She is into animal rights, wants to stop bullying, loves and supports her hometown, hates assholes and would love to avoid them but there is so many neither of us knows where to start to avoid them…LOL that is my add on to the subject not hers. She supports her son Roy in all his interest also. Anyway the point I’m trying to make is that she is not only my wonderful friend but she is my family she isn’t family by blood but if I need someone in a pinch or in my corner at any time then she is the lady I would pick because I know that I would just have to ask and she would cover my back. She is the kind of friend you could call because you have gone completely off the bind and you call her up and she would ask first thing do we need to hide the body. LOL
Now Roy on the other hand he too is a friend but we can’t ask him to help hide the body but he could probably be persuaded. LOL He too is a wonderful and thoughtful friend. He writes wonderful movies reviews even sometimes when the movie wasn’t very good. He always has something positive to say which I find envious something because something there just isn’t something nice to say. He has always been positive and really great. I consider him a very good friend and also family. I would not trade Roy or Susie’s friendship and being my family for 10 million dollars I know you might think I’m crazy but family is what you make it and I know the old fashion saying about blood being thicker than water but they don’t have or know someone like Susie or Roy.
I also have some others I consider family and I wouldn’t trade them for any amount of money either. Before I name people here let me tell you guys just because your name isn’t here doesn’t mean I don’t love you or don’t consider you my family it is that I only have so much space and God willing I will have enough space to name all of you okay. Here goes: Debra, Wronda, Linda, Beckie, Billie, Billy, Vickie, Brenda, Brenda, Angie, Becky, Melissa, Stephanie, Troy, the girls, Jenny, Ash, Chelle, Sara, Sarah, Sharon, Jim, Mary, Harty, Berta, Mrs. J, Jean, Re, John, Shimmer, Anita, Dan Paul, Jack, Kenny, David, Garry, Barbara, Vickie, Debbie, Betty, Marina, Katie, Caleb, Tami, Tina, Allan, Chris, Jim, Richard, Mike, Gary, Garry, Alice, Boyd, Beverly, Donna, Mary, Sheila, Mark, Julian, Julian 2, Randy, Terri, Shannon, Nancy, Eve, all the kids from the children home who aren’t listed here cause there are just too many to write. LOL Lots more from school, work and all of you who should know who you are and you aren’t listed down here. I love you all. Remember this we aren’t blood but we are family because we have formed a friendship that went beyond the being caring into being family. Thank each and every one of you for being my shoulder to cry on and my port in the storm plus always being there whether for laughing or crying, sickness, sadness but best of all just being there like family is supposed to be.
God bless you all I LOVE YOU!!!!!

4 thoughts on “FAMILIES THAT WE MAKE

  1. tears welling in my eyes, a smile on my face at the same time? what a poignant and revelatory essay, kat! your paragraphs about roy and me moved me beyond words at a time I sorely needed a kind nod my way…I love people appreciating roy even more than I vainly loved what you wrote about me! I wonder if you realize what a good turn you just did for me and all those whom you mentioned and those whom you included without specific names. I totally believe in inclusion…and you are a champion at that skill! your grace and kindness and humor receive an A + from this old former English teacher who no longer capitalizes and punctuates because I am all worn out. you are a tonic…a gin and tonic! we love you and feel that we have always been family…the three of us forever! your losses have been mighty, and you have prevailed with a sunny spirit and a warm heart and a delightful candor. thanks for perking all of us up with your appreciation for and a description of the humans in your life. humans can be as wonderful as every other species! (you knew that I would mention animals, right? they are my best friends as are you!)


    1. Susie, It is so easy to give appreciate to both you and your wonderful son Roy. You both are wonderful people who love and respect others like you want others to respect and love you. Animals are easy to love and they give unconditional love back too. I am so proud to be yours and Roy’s friend. I love you both and I’m happy to be your champion because I know like now when the situation is reversed you are there to pick up the cause for me.


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